Here are some tips and personal experiences that might get you thinking.
Don’t allow yourself to criticise anyone. Criticism just puts another person on the defensive. It’s futile and only serves to justify the perpetrators actions. It’s also damaging to a person’s pride. Criticism simply strengthens resentment.
Everyone likes to hear a compliment now and then. A compliment from the heart. Not one filled with bullshit. Be honest and sincere when you tell someone you appreciate them.
If you want to influence people, the only way you’re going to do that is by talking about whattheywant. And show them how they can attain it. “If there is any one secret of success, it lies in the ability to get the other person’s point of view and see things from that person’s angle as well as your own.”Henry Ford.
Become genuinely interested in other people. Encourage them to talk about themselves and be sure to listen intently to the conversationalist. There’s nothing more flattering than listening exclusively to the person to whom you’re talking.
You’ve heard the term, “Actions Speak Louder Than Words”, I’m sure. When you smile at someone your smile is saying I like you; I’m glad to see you. There’s an old Chinese proverb. It goes like this.“A man without a smiling face must not open a shop.”A genuine smile makes you feel good, particularly when it’s reciprocated.
Remember a person’s name after you’ve been introduced. It’s as simple and as complicated as that. People are proud of their names. Aren’t you? And when someone you just met says your name correctly, you feel pretty damn good.
Be confident. That can be difficult given people you meet feel themselves to be superior in some way. And that’s a good thing. Because it allows you to grow as you learn to be humble.
Show sincere appreciation for people and what they do for you. That simple ‘thank you’ can change your life. It does wonders for people because you’ve made them feel important. That’s important.
You can’t win an argument. The best way to get the best out of an argument is to avoid it. But if you have to argue and contradict your victory will be empty. Think of a point that is brought to your attention. One that you haven’t thought of and be ready to recognise it as an opportunity to be corrected so you don’t make the same mistake twice.
Finally, be yourself. Don’t emulate others. You’re unique and you’ve got your own quirks. Just be you. And remember, not every single person you meet is going to like you and that’s okay too.